Wherever you are in life it is important to take some time and enjoy the moment. Regardless of what is happening or not happening you are still here. What is most valuable in life is life itself! Whether you believe it or not, Life is a precious gift from God! Time belongs to Him. It is through His Son Jesus Christ everything was Spoken into Existence! Please if you have any? Listen with your spiritual ears for a moment. Let this register in your mind a moment, please read it again if necessary. This is powerful! Listen to what Colossians tells us about JESUS! “HE is the image of the invisible GOD, the firstborn over ALL CREATION, For by HIM ALL things, were CREATED; things in HEAVEN and on EARTH, visible and invisible, whether thrones, or powers or rulers or authorities aALL things were CREATED by HIM and for HIM…”
Did you know no matter how much you want to, you cannot turn back the hands of time? You can look back, wish things would or could have been different but in reality you can’t go back and undo what has been done. Letting go does not mean forgetting. You can thumb through photo albums, year books or diaries, spend an afternoon watching personal videos reminiscing on what was, but you cannot go back. Begin to “Make the Best of NOW!
If there are a lot of past unresolved issues that continue to crop up, guess what? Looking back momentarily to disengage from the fermenting stored up pain or resentment can be healthy. You cannot change anything that has happened. But you can change how it continues to hinder you from moving forward and becoming all that you were meant to be. Begin letting it go! Remember the child in you is always present. It is the part of you that wants its way; now. The part of you that says, Hey! I want, I hurt, I need I, I, I … But the adult in you has to take responsibility for your actions and your well being. The adult in you has to readily evaluate and say hmmm let me think before I react. We must learn to patiently respond rather than just impulsively react. Remember you cannot change what has happened but you can change what you do NOW!
Self control is a virtue. It is also a part of God’s Fruit. We as God’s children need Him daily to help us implement His principles within our lives. He has given us His Holy Spirit as The Comforter to help us! Rest assured, He is everywhere we are. We just have to invite Him in on whatever is happening. It is easy to just go it on your own and live haphazardly, or let the chips fall where they may? Nor does it take any discipline. But is this how it should be? Sin is anything that separates us from God! It takes self control to access His presence. A simple unuttered prayer will do! There is POWER in the name of JESUS!
As a child of God we never get to the point that we don’t need Him as Father and Lord! We are ageless children to Him. Yes things do happen sometimes that are beyond our control. But, we must learn to become responsible self controlled adults living in this world where any and everything goes. His principles where meant to be our barometer for what is right and wrong. He wants us to humble ourselves and walk in humility. He wants us to be a people of Power who walk in meekness not in our weaknesses. This is why He says; “ I tell you the TRUTH, unless we change and become like little children, you we will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven.” John said, “REPENT! For the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand (near)” John was not talking about later on, he meant right then and yes, NOW. The kingdom of God is near and accessible. HIS WORD tells us, “So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil. For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit…”
Do you want to experience His Kingdom where there is Joy and His Peace which is not contingent on our circumstance? Kingdom in this sense is not talking about a realm or physical place. It is talking about letting God rule and reign in your life NOW! It’s about living in His presence NOW. Remember, Jesus taught His disciples to pray “Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and lead us…” We need the Fruit of His Spirit daily. What is that? “But the FRUIT of the SPIRIT is , Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self-Control…”
Today really is a new day. But His principles have not changed! It is not like “Ground Hog Day”, which is this amusing, humorous little movie that I have watched many times. In this comedy the day happens over and over for Bill Murray until it gets absolutely ridiculous. He is the only one that is aware that the day is happening over and over. The day’s events become so very predictable after he has lived it over and over so many times that he knows what is going to happen before it happens. The point is in going back it still did not change what had happened. Therefore we must move forward consciously making a sincere attempt to live life with purpose. “This is the Day that the LORD has made let us REJOICE and be GLAD in it…” I then always say Who but GOD can make a day?
If you look and study closely you will see that the disciples went through some things. It was not always a bed of ease! But yet, they depended on Him and yes, they persevered! They continued to move toward God and grow in the Grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ! It is important to nurture the child in you. You cannot give what you do not have. We therefore ask daily for the continual infilling presence of His precious Holy Spirit! He is more than able! God IS realistically able to fill every void that we have. He is the GREAT “I AM”!
You can actually take control by going back to let go of what was or what could have been. You do not want to live in denial. It can be somewhat therapeutic by looking back momentarily and reenacting certain scenarios? This is because you are now deciding to take control and begin letting go of things and situations that you could not or cannot change. You are in a sense REPENTING! You NOW begin to move toward by letting go and letting God’s way take the wheel of your life!
God really is AWESOME! Don’t limit His ability to be All that He is in your life! He is so much more than what our little finite minds can ever conceive. Remember from the very Beginning everything was spoken into existence by His Son Jesus Christ! He truly is Omnipotent, Omniscient and Omnipresent! Whatever has happened is happening or will happen God already knows. This is why it is so important to begin living your life to Please Him. You will never be able to please any or everybody all the time. But you can begin walking , talking and living in His Presence. You can begin “Making the BEST of NOW!”
What’s eating You?
Anorexia and Bulimia are serious compulsive eating disorders that are life threatening. These compulsive behaviors if not properly attended can result in death. This is not to scare you but to inform you that eating disorders are quite serious. I would like to shed some light on a serious subject that many do not like to discuss. In order to reach spiritual wholeness we must be willing to look at all human behavior. Everyone has areas in which they need to grow. Some have a harder time harnessing harmful behaviors. Behavior displayed does not actually display a true indication of how someone really is. Personality is often a veneer that has developed in order to protect the real person. Personalities vastly differ on a multiplicity of levels. Behavior can actually be a plea for help. Compulsive behaviors need immediate attention.
Anorexia and Bulimia is not something that is usually openly discussed. Anorexia nervosa is a self induced starvation that results in a dramatic weight loss. Bulimia is when one binges on large amounts of food that is followed with self induced vomiting or laxative abuse. This can or may not result in weight loss. Both are extremely dangerous and harmful both mentally and physically. Food for many can bring to mind memories of pain, abuse, anger, failure, rejection and or conflict. Although women primarily develop eating disorders, there are approximately 10% of men who are also anorexic or bulimic and the numbers are growing. Eating disorders usually have their onset during adolescent or teens. They can also develop later on in life.
Anorexia and Bulimia origins are nested most frequently in dysfunctional families of varying social economical status. There are currently programs designed for children as well. This should inform you of the seriousness of eating disorders Denial is often an accompanying dynamic. Anorexics usually deny their feelings. They have been taught to suppress their feelings.
Let’s look at some of the symptoms. One of the first symptoms of Anorexia is when a person is focused on how they are too fat; when it is quite obvious that is not the case. They continually shift their desirable weight down. It is not unusual for an anorexic’s hands, feet, and head to appear far too big. They continually restrict food to lose dramatic amounts of weight. They often wear bulky clothes or sweaters to mask their actual body size. It is also accompanied by the over use of laxatives; and or diet pills. Low self esteem and being over perfectionistic. Maintaining rigid control and excessive exercise. Depression, deceitfulness, guilt and irritability are often present as well. Anorexics are proud of their ability to restrict and control the amount of food they do or do not consume. Voluntary starvation can lead to emaciation and sometimes death. YOU NEED HELP!!!
Let’s look at some of the symptoms for bulimia. The person is caught up in a binge-purge pattern of eating. They can consume vast amounts of food and relieve themselves by self induced vomiting, They often observe food rituals. Low self esteem and being overly perfectionistic are apparent. The person looses control once they start eating. Food actually becomes a calming agent and somewhat of a companion. One common bond in anorexia and bulimia is the person really wants relationship and the approval of others. It is highly likely that there has also been sexual abuse. It is important that you lovingly confront someone with an eating disorder. It is important that you are honest about the way they look. You must be willing to take the risk at them being upset. You should also be willing to take part in their healing. It is important that they receive the professional help they need. You too will need support during their recovery process. It is most helpful to learn more about eating disorders.
There are cases when a person is a combination of the two. This is known as bulimarexic. They vacillate between the two disorders. It can be confusing because the individual does not acknowledge there is a problem. Denial is present since they do not actually fall into either category. Weight gain or loss, digestive problems, heart problems. anemia, forgetfulness, erosion of tooth enamel, glandular functioning, hypoglycemia, and impulse control order are some of the many side effects.
How does one BEGIN TO HEAL? In severe cases an inpatient treatment program is best. A person’s weight must be closely monitored. In some cases initially treating them for depression is necessary. One thing that is necessary for healing is that they come to terms with the “Truth” of how they are feeling. One must make a conscious effort to look at their life, their family system and how they have been affected. In order to become whole they must learn to look at themselves, and others differently. Eating disorders are a family affair. Restructuring of the family interactions and dynamics are crucial. Obsessive compulsive issues to food and unrelated to food need to be addressed. Anorexia can affect major organ system functioning. Love, diligent prayer, intmacy, transparency and consistent accountability by all involved with the HEALING PROCESS is very important!
The family system must be changed. Creating a healthy environment of honesty, love and support will facilitate healing. Build a support buddy system. Become accountable and responsible for a proper diet. Replacing your void with healthy and fun activities and making a point to eat regularly with family. Just know that you also gain control by deciding to eat properly. Believe what the scale says when you can’t believe the mirror! Healing takes time. But putting forth the effort is worth the time. You are worth it! Dysfunctional dynamics have often become the norm for many. The unhealthy use of defense mechanisms, the lack of the ability to be who they are, the need to please others and the rageaholic and /or controlling family issues must be dealt with.
God wants us to be whole. Being whole does not mean being free of conflict or problems. Life will continually present challenges. Challenges brings about spiritual growth and development. God also wants us to be perfect. Godly perfection does not mean being free of flaws. Godly perfection companions are an inward peace of mind and accepting the fact that God has uniquely created you. It means learning how to embrace who you are. Who God intended you to be. Realize that “NO ONE CAN BE A BETTER YOU THAN YOU!” It means learning how to be content in the light of His Word. Then cautiously moving forward in life discovering who you are? To be perfect in Biblical terms simply means to be complete in Him. No it does not mean you have all the answers. But it does mean having a healthy relationship with God who does!
If you or someone you know has an eating disorder. Pray for or with them and care for them sincerely! I truly believe that as long or short as the Lord has us here it is to learn. When we learn all there is to learn, if you are His child He calls you home. Learning to relate to food, people, things, problems and situations is a lifetime learning experience. But you can start today if you have not already; living life differently. You can live life preparing for eternity. This will also relieve you of much unwarranted anxiety. God knows ever single solitary thing that has happened in your life and everyone else lives as well. GOD LOVES YOU! God really does know your heart. God can and will teach you how to guard your heart properly. God wants you to have that abundant life His precious Son, Jesus Christ died for. He wants you to enjoy and learn how to properly nourish your body both spiritually and physically. He wants you to live a balanced life. He wants you to be emotionally whole.
Yes you will continue to have sorrow, grief and disappointments. Yes, the world is getting worse. Yes, our country is in a recession! Yes, life is and will be difficult at times. Drugs, alcohol, sex, money, food and yes even hard work can be all used in an attempt to fill emptiness in your life. There must be a balance. We must learn to properly relate to life in a manner that pleases God. God has a purpose for your life only you can fill! In the midst of this world you we are given the opportunity to have a Comforter! You see Jesus purpose was that we have life and have it more abundantly. This does not just mean materialistically. It means in every way. It is the enemy who comes to steal, kill, and destroy……. You do not have to focus on the enemy when you know that your life is truly in the hands of the Lord. Yes, it is important that you know how he operates. You do not have to focus on what others think when you know that God’s knows the depth of your heart. He knows why you do or do not do whatever! God can free you. He only can give you the PEACE that surpasses the understanding of man.
Start anew today! God wants to fill the void in your life that only He can fill. Most important He loves us enough that He allows us the opportunity to choose. Allow His Holy Spirit, His Comforter to comfort and abide with you 24/7. I truly believe that there is absolutely positively nothing that is too big for God to handle. Begin today and everyday by allowing the Lord His place in your life, heart and home. He can help you and teach you how to properly physically, emotionally and spiritually nourish your body, mind and soul. God is your Maker and Creator. God has promised to work “all things” not some things which means even the bad things. God has said “all things work together for good. For those who love Him. For those who are called according to His purpose” When you are walking in the Spirit there is no condemnation. You can always trust, lean, depend, stand and count on God.
YOU CAN rise ABOVE your EATING DISORDER?