Solving conflict in marriage is not as difficult as it may seem. What makes it difficult is, if and when either or both spouses allow their ego to take the forefront! Then it becomes a battle between your wills; what I want and what you want! Don’t let this become the norm. Here is where the problems surface and can knit itself into the fabric of the marriage! It becomes the way you function! A contentious, fuss, fight, makeup, breakup unhealthy roller coaster! Humble yourself and don’t always wait for the other spouse to back down… Remember; “Practice makes permanent!”
Think about it for a minute! You decided to get married because you wanted a lifetime partner! You wanted a husband or wife that you could love, grow with, enjoy and be there for you! Of course you are going to disagree sometimes you are two different people!
You both have different temperaments! You process things differently! This is great and can make life interesting! When you disagree let this become a time of discovery! Allow one another the freedom of expression … You should want to know how each other are feeling! But show some respect! Hold fast and stand on godly principles rather than pride! When you both do this at some point you will reach understanding and meet on common ground! This also strengthens your marriage foundation! Work through those rough moments!
The Word teaches us that “iron sharpens iron…” Proverbs 18. Therefore you both working together can smooth out your rough edges! Don’t give up you can make it through this! But it is important for both spouses to keep in mind what is good for the marriage is good for you as a couple! Together you will build truthfulness, veracity, character, and integrity in one another as well as your marriage! Respect, commitment, loyalty, understanding, joy, support and perseverance are important ingredients in building a flourishing, resilient, strong marriage!