Learn How To Overcome Bitterness – Part 3

What’s Happening? What’s EATING YOU!

Lately life has presented some real challenges. In other words, some of everything is going on everywhere. Have you noticed? As a result, anger, discrimination, injustices, disappointment, insecurities, fears, sadness and bitterness abounds. However, don’t fret. You can learn to overcome bitterness.

Desire to live a happier life.

First don’t be alarmed. Second be wise and stay alert. Third know, the Word of God is being fulfilled right before our eyes. We are in the midst of the “Perilous Days.” Jesus said that this would all happen. Therefore, it is imperative to know God and His Word for yourself. Disobedience against His Word is sometimes ignorantly encouraged by many… God has a better way.

ALL GOD’S WORD IS TRUE!

So consequently; whatever you do, please don’t panic. Instead, take control. How? First you must begin to take time to; “Be Still and Know!” Take some time away from the noise of this world to hear from the Lord. Then diligently Seek God’s direction in everything. For God is more than able in any and every situation.

Begin to incorporate praising God into your day as well. Take praise breaks all throughout your day. Keep in mind each day is a precious gift from the Lord. As a result you make it a priority to be thankful. This also will help you to stay more focused on your goals.

LEARN HOW TO Overcome Bitterness

GOD SAYS REPENT!

God wants to be a part of every area of our life. It is true; “He will never leave nor forsake you!” Neither does He force His way into our lives. It is your choice to invite Him in.

Life becomes a marvelous journey when you allow the Lord to lead you. You really can overcome anything with the Lord. When God is at the helm, you will not let bitterness take root. Your conscious becomes enlightened. As you make happiness your choice you will become happier. Yes, there will still always be trials and tribulations. They are a part of life. But you must learn that; “GREATER IS HE that IS IN YOU than he that is in the world.”

Now is the perfect time to get better and not bitter. This is a great season to begin to refresh your mind and start anew. It’s cleansing and renewal time. Begin to lean and depend on God. Trust Him for better days ahead.

Once you make happiness your goal; it won’t just happen. Be mindful of the many distractions.

How to transform your mind.

Think for a moment. God made the mind. You really cannot transform your mind apart from the Lord. So, who do you think knows best how to heal it? His Word emphatically teaches us; “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”  God’s Word truly can renew and cleanse your mind. However, you must learn to sincerely embrace His principles and hold them dear to your heart.

What’s eating You? 

Is something bothering you? Do you want to experience the transforming power of God’s Word? Believing, knowing, trusting God, embracing and daily implementing His Word is key. Bitterness, will not be able to stay rooted. If it has it will have to flee. It’s time for some spiritual gardening. Rototill your mind. And then fertilize it with the Word. The results will be; A lighter load and brighter spiritual horizons.

You can be angry and “sin not!”

Ask the Lord to “Create in you a clean heart and renew the right Spirit within you.”  Invite him into you day. As the Holy Spirit within you is activated you are cleansed from the inside out. As a result deliverance emerges. You will begin to think differently. Each day as you invite His infilling presence within you to fill you, you can become transformed from the inside out!

When you desire peace.

God can give you His peace that surpasses the understanding of man.”

This is not a manufactured peace that is displayed just for others. Nor is it overturned by emotional outbreaks. It is a genuine inner contentment that is from the Lord. You become more balanced. The reassurance of His omnipresence brings much comfort. You are inwardly provoked to be inwardly transformed rather than to outwardly conform. You seek the will of God over the will of man.

The Fruit of His Spirit then begins to take root instead. “But the Fruit of HIS SPIRIT is Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self Control!” Galatians 5  

Your actions, words, thoughts and emotions can be transformed.

Strive to live a life of peace. This world is on a slippery slope.

God is the God of peace. He can give you peace in the midst of a storm. This is why it is important that you regularly spend time with Him in His Word. Attending Bible Study is also a good idea. Especially if you don’t regularly spend time in the Word on your own. Studying together with your spouse or a friend is also good. But, personally learning how to depend and trust in the Lord should always be a top priority.

What you eat is important

The Word of God is necessary Essential Spiritual Food for your mind, body and soul. You need to partake in eating; “at the table” often. It is just as important as your regular meals. As a matter fact you will begin to eat and enjoy them better as well. Learn moderation and practice self-control. You will learn how to better relate to food. In turn, you will see how what you eat impacts how your body functions. Be mindful of when, what and how you eat. Finding a right balance is key. You want to eat to live rather than live to eat.

Time with your Creator should always be a priority. Get to know God in an up close intimate personal way. Because, His Word is alive and it imparts life. It helps you become a better you! As long as the Lord has us on this side of heaven there is room for improvement. Make way for healthier living. Learn to overcome bitterness.

After all, you are going to live throughout eternity with the Lord? Well, you do not want him to be a stranger whenever you see Him face to face.

So, don’t just read God’s Word for quantity. But to actually partake in spiritual fine dining in order to yield a greater spiritually enriched understanding of who the Lord is. You should strive to learn how to embrace and implement what you are learning within your daily life. Daily nourishing our soul is important. You will become spiritually strengthened and better able to release any bitterness as you actually digest His Word.

GOD REALLY CAN HEAL YOU EVERYWHERE YOU HURT!

We can always and forever count on God to be God. It is absolutely true; “He will never leave nor forsake You!” Learn to trust God. For He truly is the ultimate healer.

You really can overcome anything with the Lord when you make happiness your choice. His joy will be your strength. But you must first believe and know without doubt that; “GREATER IS HE that IS IN YOU than he that is in the world.” There is ” VICTORY in CHRIST JESUS! “

Once you have decided to make happiness your goal; it won’t just happen. Start by setting realistic expectations you can achieve. This will give you a sense of fulfilment. Responsively exercise self-control. It is important to keep focused. Therefore, initially make small goals that you can achieve. This will also help you to build confidence.

This transformation process is lifelong.

Change takes time. In the Lord we are forever growing in His grace. If you are impatient? In the process you can progressively learn how to become patient. This is key in learning to not react impulsively. First remember: As you exercise discipline you get better at it. Second, Don’t make excuses for shortcomings. Take responsibility for your actions. Third, Believe God and His Word. The results; With Christ Jesus as your personal Savior & Lord you will begin to see life differently.

Remember the worm in the apple. And don’t let anyone lay eggs on your blossoms.

Your goal is to now; release any residual bitterness and embrace your happiness. How? Firstly you must yield and submit yourself to the Lord. Secondly you learn to; worry, less and PRAY more. Thirdly, you embrace and implement the truth & principles of God’s Word within your daily life. As a result you become delivered and set free. In the final analysis you actually are becoming a better ” Designer’s Original! “

Learn How To Overcome Bitterness Part 2

What’s EATING YOU!

Let go of what’s been eating you. This is a healthy step in the right direction. And it will actually free you. Learn how to overcome bitterness. First of all, as you release it you will become stronger. Second, you gain strength and learn to better discipline yourself. Third, this allows hurt to flee and brings forth cleansing. The results are; healing starts to comes forth.

God really does want us to be happy!

Let’s move towards healing

Please, DO NOT regurgitate your pain over and over again. This does not mean you go into denial. No, you consciously choose to embrace beginning to move towards healing. And no, you don’t want to have a pity party. You do want to confess and admit that this has bothered you.

Your feelings are important. They need to be validated. But you will no longer let the issue invade your peace. Now let’s move towards getting better and not bitter. Learn how to overcome bitterness.

How? Acknowledge it for whatever it is. But then you must also commit to make some changes. You must accept taking responsibility for your well-being. Periodically check yourself. Police yourself and take note of patterns or triggers. When you find yourself in the wrong direction, unfocused or with a bad attitude; pause. Don’t stay stuck or allow pride to keep you in bondage. Shake yourself and simply shift and; Reset!

Learn how to overcome bitterness

God does have a purpose and a path for your life. Now, seek the Lord above all others. Allow yourself to be placed on the potter’s wheel. Let Him begin to mold you and shape you into a usable “vessel of honor” for His Glory. He can help you become a better you. Don’t simply enlist in a support group that will keep you tethered to your pain. God really does have a better way. The Word of God is so powerful! You can be “transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

YOU REALLY CAN BE HAPPY IT’S YOUR CHOICE!

Once you admit that life is difficult it becomes easier. Sin is pervasive and has taken root in this world. We live in a spiritual warzone. So many things have become greatly impacted. Everyone wants to run and start a support group for something? But what is it supporting? This only further serves to nurture any bitterness you are harboring. Don’t be deceived! If you desire support there is nothing wrong with this. Just make sure and very sure it does not consist of continual rehearsals to help you sustain your pain.

Don’t allow your issues to become the repetitive focus of your worship. Learn how to overcome bitterness. Begin to worship God from a place of joy!

I have counseled with many bitter people. When you truly realize God is omnipresent you will live differently. It is important to learn to live your life in the presence of the Lord!

Set some time aside and have a quality private worship service with the Lord. Make it a point to thank Him for all that He has done and for all that He has brought you through. Emerge refueled, refreshed and joyful! Now rejoice in Him and trust the Lord to take you to another level. Make sure you are daily adorned in your spiritual armor. As a matter of fact keep it on. Let peace & joy come forth!

Be Alert and Be Aware!

Today, anything goes. But, you do not have to get on board? The desire for acceptance often becomes an enabler. Tolerance and acceptance have often been labeled unconditional love. Don’t compromise your morals or principles. If you have don’t make excuses; REPENT! God knows everything about everyone. Don’t let any sin keep you from moving closer to the Lord.

These days; TRUTH more and more has been pushed to the background. The LOVE of GOD misconstrued. If the Truth were told ultimately GOD is the only source of unconditional love. Why is that? I am glad you asked. BECAUSE HE IS LOVE! HIS LOVE IS EVERLASTING!

Love people enough to speak the Truth in Love! The TRUTH really does set you FREE!

Lord Help Us! Thank You Lord for the life we have in You!

Always want the best for you as well as others! Allow the JOY of the LORD to be your strength!

Sin is anything that separates you from God. Like the worm in the apple sin begins to grow and works its way out. Time to take a spiritual bath in the Word. It will cleanse you from the inside out.

A temporary band aid is unacceptable

All too often only part of the truth is told to receive sympathy or to be accepted. Some will literally help you to death. It is sad that many do not seek to really want to resolve inner or outer conflict. But seek a support to justify irresponsibility.  A temporary band aid is not acceptable. No, you don’t have to shout it from the top of your lungs. Nor do you have to join the “woe is me club!” It is important to know that this will not lead to your freedom. Learn how to overcome even the slightest bitterness.

This will result in; “True Deliverance!”

Daily meditate upon the Word of God. “rejoice in the Lord daily. For, the Lord will always make a way for His Will to be done in our lives!

The last days the Word talks about are now.  “The Perilous Days” are here! This is why we have some of everything going on in the world. And yes, also happening inside, outside  and all around God’s Church.

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Marriage and Addiction Relief Part 4

Marriage & Addiction
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Part 4

Causes of Addiction

Addiction makes you want to feel good. The limbic system is the center where our feelings originate. It is activated by our brains. When you feel good your brain releases a neurotransmitter that reaches a receptor. This is what tells you to feel good. Drugs that affect the brain are called psycho active because they are mood altering. This is why one refers to being under the influence as being “high!” However after prolonged use the brain chemistry becomes altered and adjusts. It gradually takes more in order to achieve a “high!” The more one uses, the more they begin to crave, the more they use. Guess what? This begins the perilous road to addiction. So now we have a vicious self-destructive cycle that needs to be broken!

Addiction affects not only the mind but the body and spirit as well. Addiction takes on many forms. When addiction involves, overeating, caffeine, nicotine, gambling, promiscuity, shopping, workaholic, cultish religion, exercise and hobbies, it is very important to seek resolve. Society has a tendency to accept the above addictions a tad more. An addiction can also be of a sexual nature. You should make it a goal to learn how to train your impulsiveness. Seek to let nothing or no one control you. There are serious consequences when one becomes addicted! The addiction itself is a symptom of an underlying unresolved issue. Which is really “A plea for help!”

Emotional pain that is suppressed and has not been properly addressed is often the root cause. One who has low self-esteem lacking coping skill will sometimes turn to drugs. Someone who has been abused or molested will turn to drugs. Domestic violence can cause someone to turn to drugs. Someone who has been abandoned will turn to drugs. Someone who is grieving a loss or grieving may turn to drugs. One who may have been injured in a fall or accident and is prescribed pain medication can also become addicted! They often use the injury to rationalize the addiction. There is a plethora of reasons for addiction…

Finding better ways to cope is crucial. One must come out of denial and take ownership of their behavior. When an addiction becomes full-blown it affects everyone involved.Finding better ways to cope is crucial. One must come out of denial and take ownership of their behavior. When an addiction becomes full-blown it affects everyone involved. For instance cigarette smoke impacts others as they breathe in the secondary smoke. It also results in low birth weight in babies whose mother’s continue to smoke. It has now become clear that cigarette smoking causes cancer therefore smoking has been banned in many public buildings, restaurants and places… After many years of smoking cigarettes it can result in health complications as well as cancer that can eventually cause death. What is so very interesting the number of people who continue to smoke anyway knowing that smoking is not good for their health! This is also due to the fact that smoking has been socially accepted to a large degree making it easier for the addiction to persist!

Drugs usually makes one feel good. This in itself makes it hard for the addict to simply just say “NO!” Their feelings dictate their behavior and mental acuity. Due to their lack of self-discipline they usually succumb! The addictive drug user seeks the euphoria that the drugs or smoking provides over all else at the expense of their health and wellbeing. Momentarily they are able to escape and numb their inner pain.

You can actually feel good or learn how to feel good without the use of any substance. This is another reason an intimate personal close relationship with the Lord is so very important. God is our Creator. He really does know what is best for each of us. He wants to manifest and multiply the Fruit of His Spirit within us. Self control is part of His Fruit. God can Heal your mind, body & soul.

Addiction affects, mind, body and soul. The multiplicity of reasons why people become addicted are complex, vast and each individual is different. Addiction is being out of control and accompanied with compulsive behaviors. Addiction does not mean that the person is bad. It is important to separate their behavior from who they are. It is important to not make them feel comfortable in their addiction. Next we will discuss; some of the ways drugs affect you body!

Part 5

How Important Is Discipline In Your Daily Life ?

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Webster defines discipline as a training that corrects. It molds and perfects the mental faculties and moral character. A control gained by enforcing obedience or order. Orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior. To discipline means to train or develop by instruction and exercise; especially in the area of self control.The development of discipline is essential to our overall personal growth and spiritual maturity. One of the fruits of the spirit is self control.

Due to Adam’s sin mankind has inherited a sin-based nature. The appetite to fulfill the desires of the eyes and the lusts of the flesh is quite often first and foremost. The appetite of each individual varies. Your desire could be overeating or under-eating, alcohol, drugs, immoral sexual behavior, lying, envy, idolatry, covetousness, etc. In order to overcome this proclivity towards sin one must continually learn to surrender their yearnings toward self-gratification.

How can we accomplish this? To the believer deliverance from an undisciplined lifestyle is quite attainable. Paul tells us: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:19. The key factor in that verse is the strength has to come from the LORD.

God is quite aware of our shortcomings. Our shortcomings are what alerts us to the fact we need something other than ourselves to overcome our human frailties. God has created us for the purpose of fellowship. We must continuously develop a life in accordance with the instructions He has left in His WORD. The first step to accept Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way the truth and the life: NO man cometh unto the FATHER but by me.” John 14:6. There is no other way to GOD.

Our perspective on life greatly affects how we deal with certain situations. Envision with me if you please a house. Everyday you would pass by this house. After a while you become very familiar with it’s exterior. You then begin to even make assumptions about the house. You eventually come to admire it for it’s surface beauty, but only from an exterior point of view. You’ve seen the front door day after day but you have never stopped and taken the time to knock at the door. You are aware of where the house is; you even think you have a general idea of what it’s like inside. But do you really?

Quite often we develop the same type of relationship with God. We know where His instructions for daily life are found. We have access to the Bible. But how often do we really devote time to actually seek His spiritual direction for our day to day living? We must go beyond the exterior and delve into the WORD and embrace His principles and apply them to our lives consistently. When we embrace His principles we embark upon a life of freedom. This freedom will free you from the appetites of the flesh and the clutches of the world. When you develop an intimate relationship with Him He begins to fill that deep endless void THAT ONLY HE CAN FILL.The Christian life is not an unattainable idealistic lifestyle. When we begin to walk in the Spirit we can overcome the weaknesses of the flesh.

Christians are to live lives that are dependent on God. It is through this spiritual dependency the strongholds that satan has on your life will begin to dissipate. This spiritual walk includes a life of discipline. Remember it is through discipline we are able to harness and control the lusts of the flesh I mentioned earlier. Christ lived, suffered, died and arose from the dead for a reason. He sacrificed His life to redeem us from the curse and endowment of Adam’s sin. It is by the indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives we can overcome and partake in the victorious life he has prepared for those that truly love Him. “Greater is He that is in you then he that is in the world.” The scripture is not just for memorization to impress others. It is an edible delicacy that will nourish your spirituality and quench your unquenchable thirst as you truly embrace and live out it’s intended principles.

We must seek and learn to discipline our life to His standards. We must begin to relinquish the desire for man’s approval and conditional acceptance. We can never please man. I must warn you! The closer you draw to GOD the less man will understand you. You will be persecuted and greatly misunderstood. Guess what ? So was Jesus! He was maligned and accused of many things by those who should have known better. It was those who were thought to be spiritual that treated Him exceedingly wrong.

Man looks from the outside in; this is the opposite of God’s perspective. He looks from the inside out. He knows all about you. Your innermost thoughts and desires are fully known by Him. The key to a peaceful and contented life filled with true JOY is available. “God is light, and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness (appetites of the flesh) we lie, and do not tell the truth. But if we walk in the light, as He is light, we have fellowship one with another, and the BLOOD OF JESUS CHRIST HIS SON CLEANSETH US FROM ALL SIN.” How important is discipline? It is very important!

Learn How To Overcome Bitterness Part 1

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What’s been  eating you?

Is there something that is bothering you? Are you bitter? Something that you can’t talk about?  Has someone hurt you that you can’t forgive? Did someone say something to you that you can’t shake loose? Has someone taken something away from you; or wronged you in some way? Do you crave acceptance? Do you feel rejected? Are you, impatient, frustrated, fed up, and just plain angry? Does the slightest little thing set you off?

What’s eating you now?

Whatever the case don’t let it continue to hold you a prisoner. If you don’t do something about it, you will only allow the seed of bitterness to become rooted and develop deep within. Slowly but surely it will cultivate and grow. Think for a moment the chances are great that whomever has wronged you has probably moved on and not even given the matter a second thought. However you are stuck.

Time to let bitterness it go!

Each time you dwell on whatever it is without letting go, it grows. The longer you hold on to it, it will slowly but surely begin to eat at you from the inside out. Unattended it will cause you to become depressed, physically ill, have much anxiety, depression, panic attacks, cancer, high blood pressure or migraine headaches.  The end of possibilities goes on…

When you allow whatever it is that is bothering you to grow, fester and internally aggravate you, it will eventually make you bitter. It will continue to impact you, your marriage, your friendships as well as your working relationships.

Stop Reacting!

Although you have tucked it away for no one to see. Pushed it to the back of your mind only to silently gnaw away at your joy. As each year passes it is still there. The bitterness surfacing from time to time like a virus. The slightest little thing will trigger it. Someone will be able to push your button like pushing a remote control and set you off! You in turn loose control and impulsively react.

Learn how to responsively respond.

 Did you know how the worm gets into the apple?

Did you think it gets in from the outside in? Well it doesn’t. It has scientifically been proven. What happens is an insect actually lays an egg on the apple’s blossom. At some point the egg then hatches within the apple. As it grows, it  eats away the apple and burrows its way to the outside. When you allow bitterness to nest, it like the worm begins to grow and erode the fiber of your being.  It will eat away your happiness. Inside it will grow and tunnel its way out and manifest itself as sin.

TRULY GOD IS GOOD!

How do you stop what’s eating you from eating away at the core of your being? Periodically take a personal inventory. First keep in mind you cannot undo what has been done.  Second, allow whatever bitterness that  has been sitting in the warehouse of your mind, to come to the forefront. As anything resurfaces hold it up to the Light of God’s Word.  Third, Meditate upon the Word of God. For it is a marvelous Library of Essential  Spiritual  Wisdom.

By the way you can read all day long but if you don’t implement it, then its just mere words.

Ask the Lord to help you and to open up your understanding. Begin to acknowledge any ill will or bad feelings you are having. Move towards letting go of the pain by; forgiving the offense, the offender, and forgiving the deed. By the way forgiving does not mean forgetting unless you have amnesia. 

What does it mean to forgive?

Forgiving does not mean that you have to overlook what has happened. Christ Jesus forgave those who crucified Him.  “Father forgive them for they know not what they do…” But we must never forget the penalty He paid.  Nor do we have to  continue to allow anyone to crucify us, nor disrespect us!

GOD says; REPENT!

Forgiving  means that you give up the resentment. Resentment means to feel the pain of the action over and over again. When you hold on to the resentment it  turns to bitterness, that only continues to further hurt you.  So, learn to become ” Strong in the Lord! ”   Daily nurture your heart with the WORD of  GOD!

Don’t allow anyone to lay eggs on your blossoms!

God can teach you how to properly guard your heart.  However; You must also surrender your right to get even.    Each day is a day to grow in God’s grace.  Give it, your issues, her, him or them to the Lord!  Life and time is precious. God can handle them all  a lot better than you can…  He says;  “Vengeance is mine I will repay…” Allowing any anger to slowly come to the surface helps you gain self control, you can then rise above it.  Focus and reset!

God’s Holy Spirit; His Comforter is more than able to help you…

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