How Do I Love Thee – Closing Remarks
In Christian counseling the goal should always be to seek God’s direction. It is important that the counselor be prayerful, compassionate and yet remain objective. The counselor possesses no power to change the behavior, attitude or motivation of the counselees. The counselor should desire to be a useable vessel yielded to God’s Word. Although educational training and various counseling models are invested in the counselor; God’s Word and principles contained therin is always the superlative model for Christian counseling. Dependence upon His Word is what makes Christian Counseling essentially unique.
To truly be a Christian means to desire to live a life that pleases God. Yet we have many Christians who have not developed a personal intimate relationship with Him. How can we know what God’s will is for our life and not have a relationship with Him ?
How can we consider making such a serious vow as marriage and not know what it entails ? When our automobiles need reparing we go to the mechanic. When our roof leaks we look for a roofer. When our soul desires a soulmate we need to consult our Creator who is the soulmaker. Life is full of many valley and mountaintop experiences. Knowing God will greatly impact how we weather each storm as well as the outcome of our life quest experiences. One must be willing to put forth a serious effort to know our Creator. God cares for us so much that He has given us accessible directions in His Word for a successul marriage. A successful marriage is contingent on our ability to trust and obey His instructions.
The counselor should be prepared for a possible spiritual warfare. Often misunderstandings can arise. Relationships can sour amidst much resentment and persecution.
It is of utmost importance that the information discussed during the counseling sessions be kept in the strictest confidence. When entrusted with information we should respect the right of confidentiality.
God has created us in His image. God has all power. He alone is sovereign. He patiently and graciously allows us to choose. He never forces us to do anything. It is only by obedience to God’s direction we can truly partake in the abundant life Christ’s death and resurrection has made available to believers. It is our duty to inspire and urge the couple to be willing to submit to the principles God has provided in the bible. Marriage is ordained and sanctioned by God. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. ” Proverbs 3:5-6(KJV).
I wish you a loving, eventful, committed, lifelong, God-centered marriage. “What God has joined together let not man put asunder.”